Monthly Archives: January 2017

A Powerful Moment in History


Saturday was an encouraging day for women in America. 2.9 million women were said to have marched across the world yesterday (according to, which is incredibly impressive. It is said to be the largest one day protest in U.S. history. That’s the power of the internet at work, folks.

 of Politicusus said, “An estimated 60,000 people marched in Atlanta. 250,000 are marching in Chicago. There are estimates of 250,000 people in Boston, and 200,000 more in Denver. In New York, the estimate ranges from 200,000-500,000. City officials estimate that 500,000 people participated in the main march in Washington, DC. In Los Angeles, the estimate is anywhere from 200,000-750,000. There were also protests of 60,000 in Oakland, CA, 50,000 in Philadelphia, 100,000 in Madison, WI, 20,000 in Pittsburgh, 20,000 in Nashville, TN, and 60,000 in St. Paul, MN.”

 In little old Collier County, a small version of that march happened, and I have never been so proud of my home town. This March was truly inspiring, and gave me a breath of fresh air. It felt so good to know that I, as a woman, am supported by my own community.



(Photo above courtesy of Victoria Surr: Collier County)

For those of you who don’t know, the Women’s March was for those who support equal rights for every woman and every human being who wanted to march for social justice. This was not an explicit Anti-Trump march. Rather, it was a march to tell the world that we will not let discriminatory policies be passed, and we will not give up our rights as women and as human beings.

Let me make this clear: I marched because I stand for equality. I stand for equality for every race, color, religion, sex, gender, and sexual orientation.  I marched because I  want every woman to have equal opportunities to men, because that is not the reality for many women across the country and the world. I marched because I believe it is a woman’s choice to do what she feels is right for her body. I am fortunate enough to have the choice, and my insurance covers my healthcare. Unfortunately that is not the case across the country. I march for the people and women who do not have the means to get annual check-ups and examinations because healthcare is too expensive… and they have to choose between food for their children or a visit to the doctors… and to those of you who are worried about women and children in other countries who do not even have as many rights as us here in the U.S…. we marched for them too. On the Monday after the march, Donald Trump signed an executive order to take away funding for international programs giving parenthood planning, HIV testing, and health screenings if those programs also help women with abortions… even if our U.S. dollars are not being spent on abortions. This is exactly the kind of thing we are marching against.  Yes, we are concerned with women around the WORLD, not just here in the U.S. This march extended far beyond the borders of our country. 

 I did not march because I am not personally heard, but because others are not heard.  I did not march because I feel like a second-class citizen, I marched for those who feel they are.  I marched for every woman who has been sexually assaulted and raped, and had to stay quiet. My marriage to Jason will never be questioned by the Supreme Court, but my very good friends still do not have that same security, and so I march. 

I am fortunate enough to have grown up in an environment where I was told that I can be anything I want to be some day. I have a great job, and I am covered by health insurance. I am supported by both of my parents, and I was never told that there was a limit in what I wanted to get out of life. I am so lucky, and for no reason…. because the color of my skin, the town I grew up in, the education I could afford, the success of my parents. I did not march for me. I marched for all the men and women across the world that do not share the same luck. 

If you don’t agree with me, if this upsets you, its okay. Protests are not meant to make everyone feel comfortable.

The Collier County site said, “We want to send a clear message to our community, that we are standing together in support of equal rights for all women, minorities, and immigrants. Women’s rights are human rights and as people we all deserve to be treated equally. We will not tolerate hatred, racism and sexism and we will fight for respect, dignity and justice for all. Our community is a welcoming community to all people and we want to keep it that way. Together as a unified community we can do it. It’s time that we get out and make our voices heard, it’s time that we join forces, it’s time to stand up for what we believe in. One fight – One voice – One people.”

Equality. That’s what I came for. Equality for all.


(Photo above courtesy of Jeanie Camosy: Collier County)


Unfortunately I came a little late to actually march in the streets because I wasn’t feeling too well, but I stayed around Cambier Park to see all of the different organizations that attended, and to hear all of the speakers. I went alone to this event because everyone that I knew that would be interested was working. 🙁 BUT I never felt alone while I was there. I saw some old friends and I even made some new ones!




(Photo above courtesy of Victoria Surr: Collier County)

Men and women, young and old  attended this march. Muslims, Christians, Jews, black and white all came up to speak and represent our community.

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Groups like Planned Parenthood, National Organization for Women, Coalition for Quality Public Education, and SWFL Showing Up for Racial Justice, and more were all there gathering new members and speaking about how they reach out.

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They also had the Women’s March in DC live streaming, which was awesome to get to see.


It was great to see our locals coming together in unity to stand for something we all believe in. I truly didn’t expect anything like this to happen in my community, which is made up of mostly conservatives. So this was a pleasant to surprise to see.

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(Last five photos above courtesy of Victoria Surr: Collier County)

My favorite part of the day was when my Dad called me. Now, my Dad is a pretty conservative man, who unfortunately voted for Donald Trump. He and I always have interesting political debates. But my Dad called me towards the end of the event to let me know that he was proud that I was standing up for what I believe in, and that he fully supported me and women’s rights. (Yay Dad!) In the same moment, a man was getting up to speak at the event. His message was to remind MEN that this is their battle too. We are only strong when we stand together. Gender equality is not only a battle for women, but for men as well. Men, stand strong with your ladies! It was a really happy moment for me.  

It was great to see our locals coming together in unity to stand for something we all believe in. I truly didn’t expect anything like this to happen in my community, which is made up of mostly conservatives. So this was a pleasant to surprise to see.

When I got home, I was really happy to see all of the photos on my feed about the marches in other cities! I have friends scattered across the U.S. and it was super cool to see what the march looked like across the country. In fact, it was truly amazing to see all of the different stories from all around the world after the march.

My girl Carly in St. Petersburg, FL with her friends: 


“It was a privilege to stand with other men and women who are committed to fighting for justice in our country. As exhausting and scary as the election season was, it was so energizing to see 20,000 people march in solidarity for equality and truth, right in my own city! I felt so lucky to be surrounded by friends, and to have my hand held by a man who loves and supports me and this movement. Women are powerful, and this march showed a glimpse of what we can do – when we stand together.”

Victoria Surr and her father at the March in Naples, Florida:


Cathy Doherty alllllll the way from Ireland to little old Naples, Florida:

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My good friend Laycee and her fiancé Ruby, who were unable to march, because they were on a plane home from California:

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“We are unable to march today, so we rock our pride shirts while we travel back home. We can’t help but feel so overwhelmed by all the people coming together today and we truly wish we were marching in the streets with everyone”

Adnerb Ettecuod from Naples, Florida: 


“I am so hopeful. I feel so much better knowing all of these smart, creative and passionate people are out here with me. “

My friend Jacqueline from Asheville, North Carolina:

16237197_10208516368447348_1598065882_n“I marched last Saturday in Asheville, 28 weeks pregnant, thinking about my unborn baby and the world he or she will grow up in. Especially if she’s a girl. I want her to feel valued and respected by those around her, safe when she walks down the street, and in control over her own body. I also thought about the expense of maternity care. I have good insurance and it’s still expensive. Look up online what it costs to deliver a baby, it’s crazy! I want under privileged women to have access to birth control, maternity care, and financial assistance when caring for an unplanned child and I’m 100% ok with my tax dollars supporting that through Medicaid. Just a few of the reasons I decided to march. I also want to be able to tell my child that I participated in the Women’s March and that he or she was with me.”

Chloe Fishell-Creviston from Naples, Florida:

“After Friday left me feeling so shitty and defeated, yesterday let me know that there is still hope and change can be made. I live in an extremely conservative city and couldn’t believe the number of women AND men who turned out for this march. This is just the beginning!”

My great friend Alexander in St. Petersburg, Florida: 

Screen Shot 2017-01-23 at 10.39.09 AM“It’s a beautiful day to smash the patriarchy!”

For those of you who came, marched, and conquered, I encourage you to look at this:

It isn’t over yet. Yes, we’re successful in raising awareness, but the real battle is in the policy and how we can make a difference.  Check out 10 Actions for the first 100 days Campaign to see where to start. 

5 Ways to Have a Better Night

Night time is my sacred time. It is my time to relax, re-energize, and wind down.

If I can recommend one thing, it is to make time for yourself to settle in and have a restful night. Don’t run yourself down to the last moment until you fall asleep. Use this time to re-build yourself. It does wonders for me.

5 Ways to Have a Better Night

1.  Prepare for tomorrow.

If you don’t prepare for the next day, it will be chaos. I also find that my mind will continue to spin unless I have settled everything that needs to be done in the morning.  Pick out your outfit (and try it on if you have to). Get your lunch ready. Prep your cold oats if you want. Pack up your bags. Be kind to yourself. I am not a morning person, so I know that if I have a ton of things to do, I will be STRESSED. I make it a point to avoid that at all costs. So, as Scar would say, Be Prepared! Once you are done, let tomorrow go. Think about the here and now. You won’t sleep if you are stressing about the next day’s events.

2. Count your blessings and review your goals.  

It is so easy to get wrapped up in the day-to-day life and really forget what your big picture is. I try to make it a point to mentally go over my big picture goals are, and what I am truly grateful for. This helps me stay a little bit sane, and helps me keep on track with where I want to be. This also helps calm my mind at night, when I do the most overthinking.

3. Pamper yourself. (Treat yo self)


Do this however you like. like luxurious bubble baths, they’re my guilty pleasure. I love laying in steaming hot water while I read or mediate. Brush your teeth,  paint your nails, rub on some coconut oil, love your body. ALSO, wash your face! Give yourself the royal treatment. You don’t want to skip this process for beauty and emotional reasons. Let your skin breathe overnight by making sure that all of your makeup is off, it will make you feel fresh and clean. (Also, duh, if you leave your makeup on you get wrinkles and pimples, and no one wants those.)


PS- If you haven’t learned the magic that is Mario Badescu, you’re welcome. I haven’t tried a product that I didn’t like from them. Plus they are cruelty free!

4.  Relax.

Burn some candles, start up your diffuser, make some hot tea. Give yourself time to unwind. It is much easier to fall asleep when you put yourself in that mindset. You are getting ready to rest for 7 or 8 hours (hopefully), let your body get prepared to do just that. Get all snuggled up, read a little bit of your favorite book, watch your favorite show. Relax.  I find that I often miss this step because I run out of time, but it truly makes a world of difference.

5. Meditate

Once you have set your alarm (and checked it three times if you’re a freak like me), and have settled everything for tomorrow, put it all down. Be with yourself for ten minutes. Let your body and your mind connect, and just check in with yourself. Sometimes this is the best way to get myself to fall asleep!

New Year’s Resolutions

So I am going to take a moment and rant. This isn’t something that I typically do on here. But I’ve got a couple of things I need to let out.

Let’s talk about New Years Resolutions really quick. I feel like I have been hearing a lot of negative things about people who set New Years Resolutions for themselves. “Everyone just writes a bunch of things down and never does them.” “I’m not making resolutions this year, no one like a skinny sober girl anyway.”  BLAH BLAH BLAH.


Why are we hating on people who genuinely want change in their life? Why are we discouraging someone from changing their unhealthy way of life? Sounds pretty terrible.

Creating goals isn’t just something to do for the New Year, but every single day. However, isn’t it only natural to look at the year that has passed and want to create a new year with even better things? It is a reason to start fresh and to begin again, so why wouldn’t you take the opportunity?

If you’re not into resolutions, don’t make them. However, don’t bring someone else down who wants to make an effort in their life. Setting a goal for your personal life can make you feel really vulnerable. Your goals should reflect some of your deepest desires. If someone is letting the world know what their desires are, it is probably a pretty big step. Don’t squash them.

If you want to loose weight and be healthy, do it.

If you want to drink less alcohol, do it.

If you want to find your own happiness, do it.

If you want to  travel the world, do it.

Well with that being said, here are a list of things that I plan on doing in the new year to better myself: (These will go along with the New Years Resolutions I made to help heal my chakras.)

Meditate more. Once a day, and bath time meditations three times a week.

Exercise five times a week. Yoga, and cardio.

Eat  healthy.  I will fuel my body with nutritious foods, not the crap I have been eating. Less crazy carb eating, less dairy products. More water, more veggies, more protein.

Count my blessings. Every night before I fall asleep, I will to think about all of the things I am grateful fo.

Excel at my position at work. Push my position to new heights.

Never stop learning. I will take classes to further my career in the new year. There are a ton of great classes on LinkedIn and through Hootsuite that I can take that I think will truly help me learn even more.

Work. Save. Work.  I plan on picking up a side job at the beginning of the new year so I can save some money up.  (for  a wedding…. a house…)

But also, travel. I already have plans to travel to three states in the new year with some of the best people in the world.

Make Monthly goals.  I stole this one from a very good friend. She has been making monthly goals for years, and it really helps to check in with yourself on your big picture goals. It is easy to say, “these are all of the things I want to do next year!” Then by the time December rolls around you realize you never put anything in place to make it happen.

Every 1st of the month I will make a list of goals that are in line with my yearly goal. This way I know I will be able to accomplish them.

Judge me, hate on it. I don’t care. I want changes in the new year, and I am going to make them happen. I think the most important thing I need to remember is that I am the only person that can truly make changes in my life. I am in charge of how I feel and what I do about it. I have the power to make my life whatever I want it to be. It only takes a little bit of dedication.

Cheers to the new year!