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Finding the perfect balance between being on-spot with work but also enjoying your personal time is tough. How do you avoid the burn out?
Because I am young, I feel that I am career driven, more than any other area of my life. I have so much to learn and so far to go. I am constantly taking classes to improve myself, and I put my all into work. On the other hand I recently got engaged, and enjoy spending time with not only Jason, but my family and friends too. So how do you find balance?
For me, finding this balance wasn’t the easiest. A year ago I decided had to change my focus and my entire career in order to achieve any balance at all. Now that I have some balance, I have to keep working at it or it will slip away. My work-life balance will obviously change over time, according to what is happening in my life. I will have to adjust my sails when I get married, have kids, advance in my career.. this will all change the way I structure my life.
It is a tricky balance, and it will be ever-changing, so I wanted to get some input from some of the most successful ladies that surround my life. How do you do it?
1. Trust and Rely Others:
My good friend Sharon, who has worked her way up to be extremely successful in the hospitality world, said that in order to have a home life, she had to put trust in her team. Sharon said, “Being able to “disconnect” when I leave the office, for me, means mitigating those concerns that keep successful people up at night. I put the majority of my energy into putting kind, strategic, energetic people around me. While I have many goals and “stakeholders”, my associates come first. I ensure their work environment is fun and inspiring so they can focus on the operation. I always like to say that no one cares about what you know until they know how much you care. My team is my family; they inspire and uplift me and I do my very best to do the same. I recognize their accomplishments and offer resources when they are struggling. This enables me to walk away each day and know that they will put forth the same effort I do. You cannot do it alone and no great leader should try. I measure my success based on the success, happiness, and growth of my team.”
When asking my best friend’s mother, Sue, how she stays successful at work and also balances her home life, she said, “It is about making mistakes and learning from them…”I had to learn to balance family and career. Not an easy task. I was lucky in many ways as I had a partner who was willing and able to pick up any pieces I couldn’t. Parenting was a balancing act that took a lot of organization but I made sure there was no disappointments in my beautiful daughter’s world. “
I loved this bit of advice, and I think it ties in well with how Sharon responded. You have to put your trust in others. You can’t do everything yourself. You have to trust your team, whether it be at work or at home. They can handle it when you aren’t able to be there. They can cover any stones left unturned, and can help you create the type of life you want to live (if you let them!)
2. Draw the Line:
Knowing when to say no is difficult, especially when you are just beginning your career. I struggled with this in my first job, always taking on crazy tasks that led me to work well into overtime. My friend Nicole, who now works at one of the best PR/Ad/Marketing/Design agencies in the St. Pete and Tampa Bay area, had the right idea when she said to know when to draw the line. She said, “My first job out of college threw boundaries out the window. I would get texts from my boss at 11:00 pm or even 6:00 am demanding to know what the status of project XYZ was. After only two months I was sick with anxiety and depression. I walked away two months later (having only been there a total of four months) knowing that wasn’t the life I wanted for myself. I very strongly believe that once it starts affecting your health, you have to leave. End of story.
Now, Im lucky enough to have a job with an incredible team that has only ever supported me and helped me to grow in my position. I would never have ended up at Hype Group if I hadn’t stood up for myself and left my first job. Drawing that line in the sand can be terrifying, but a wise person once told me that sometimes you have to go through the fire to be truly prepared for what lies ahead. I can handle (almost) anything my job throws at me now. So speak up, ladies. Don’t shy away from hard work, but draw that line when you know it’s being pushed too far.”
3. Plan for all aspects of your life.
When I had my retail job, I felt like all I would do is work and sleep and eat and repeat. I had a crazy retail schedule and I felt like I could never see my friends. Then, my friend Meredith suggested that I actually schedule out times to see friends. With my work schedule, I would usually have time in the mornings, and so why waste that time? I began scheduling time to grab coffee with friends instead of sleeping the morning away. What a difference! Meredith, who is an Admissions Counselor for a private college in Florida, said, “A big part of finding balance is scheduling fun time, in the same way I block out time for a meeting or work event. If I have friend dates and family time to look forward to, I have added incentive to get through my errands and chores (and my work day)!”
4. Know yourself and your limits.
When asking my best friend’s mother, Sue, how she stays successful at work and also balances her home life, she said, “Knowing my limitations and how to work with them.” I loved this advice because usually you hear people say, “The sky is the limit!” But realistically, everyone has their limits, its is how you handle them that makes the difference.
5. Know that it’s okay to make mistakes.
Sue also said her success was defined by “Making mistakes and learning from them.” Sue said, “In my early twenties I was successful because I had to be. I was independent, living by myself, working two jobs and trying to make my way in this world. I went through a few relationships that were not good choices for me until I found the right guy. Success in those days was making mistakes, picking myself up and keep moving forward until I got it right. It was probably the hardest time in my life. Living from paycheck to paycheck relying on only myself and my abilities. However it gave me a great foundation for the years to come.”
6. Work hard for the things that matter.
I think it is really important to identify what the most important parts of your life are. Then, you can really structure your work, and free time around that. Sue said, “Marriage, a child and a career is the biggest balancing act women are faced with. Each one is a full time job within itself. I put so much time and energy into parenting and my career I did not have much energy left for my marriage. There are times you don’t realize that you are unsuccessful in something until it is too late. This was almost the case here. I found myself faced with an area that was going to require time and energy. Time and energy I didn’t have. But I dug deep and found it. It was hard work. I went from a balancing act to a juggling act. How did I do it? I’m not sure, but I did. My marriage survived and now 30+ years later I would have to call it a success.”
It is so important to give time to the things that matter in your life. Working hard at your career seems obvious, but don’t forget to work hard on your relationships too. In the end your relationships with others are so much more important.
7. Leave work at work and home at home
When asking my own mother about how she keeps a successful work-life balance, she simply said, “Leave work at work and home at home.” Which I thought was interesting, because that getting increasingly harder with modern technology. When I wake up in the morning, I check my emails, and I check my social media campaigns to make sure nothing went haywire while I was asleep. Its a habit, and I would like to think of it as a good one.
I really thought on it, and I think that the term “Leave work at work and home at home,” doesn’t have to be so literal. I am perfectly fine with making sure everything in my work world is running smoothly when I am “off the clock,” but I have to draw the line somewhere. When I am out with friends, or spending time with Jason, or my family, I shouldn’t be checking my work emails, or checking up on the latest advertising campaign. We have to switch off sometimes, we have to absorb our “out of work” world to the fullest potential. You should put just as much effort into enjoying your relationships and home life, as you do enjoying your work.
I think that is how you find balance?
I don’t know, I am still working on it 😉
All for now,
When I talk about meditating, I usually get one of two reactions. The first being a weird look, and an eye roll, or the second reaction of curiosity and confusion.
Listen folks, meditating is not always sitting in a seated position with your fingers making a circle at your knees. It is not always magical and spiritual, and full of insight. It is not always chanting OM loudly with crystal bowl music behind you. It is actually not as mysterious as it sounds.
Meditation is different for everyone. Sometimes it takes time to figure out what works for you, and that is ever-evolving. Something that worked for me two months ago might not be applicable to me today. Recently, the only time I have been finding to meditate is right before bed. (Yes, sometimes I catch myself falling asleep, whoops!) So, I typically lay down with palms up with a guided meditation in the background. See, Jason on the other hand, he gets freaked out by guided meditation (don’t ask me why) so he does better in silence or with gentle music in the background.
You have to find what works for you. If I have time, I love to do chakra balancing meditations with a guide. (PS- there are great guided meditations on the Podcasts app!) But realistically, I don’t have time to do a full-blown guided meditation every day, or every week even. I do, however, try to make it a point to meditate every day. Think you don’t have time for that? That is EXACTLY why you need it. Ease yourself into it… You can “meditate” while you shower, while you drink your morning coffee, before you fall asleep. Ideally you would be sitting still, and resting your body. I realize that sometimes life doesn’t hand you the time to zone out for an extended period 0f time, but you truly owe yourself 10 minutes a day. Work with what you have.
So wait, how do you do it?
Again, there are multiple kinds of meditation, but this is how I like to do it:
– Lay or sit in a comfortable position
– Make sure your phone is on silent, but play some tranquil music in the background.
– Gently scan your body to see how you are feeling
– Focus on your breath. Feel your lungs fill up with air, and then empty again. Listen to the rhythm of your body.
– Keep in mind that meditation is not the absence of thought, but simply learning to let your thoughts come and go with ease. You are bound to think of something while you sit there in silence, but meditation is learning to let go.
– When you find yourself too deep in thought, focus on your breath. This will help your mind relax a little.
– Another way to stay relaxed and keep your mind off things is by “shutting down” each part of your body. Start with your toes, feet, ankles, legs, and move your way up to total relaxation. (Although I will warn you, this usually puts me right to sleep!)
So meditating isn’t this big weird mystery. It is just being still and quiet to let your body, mind, and spirit connect.
Meditating is checking in with every aspect of your being to make sure you are on the right track, to ask yourself if you are acting like the person you want to be.
Night time is my sacred time. It is my time to relax, re-energize, and wind down.
If I can recommend one thing, it is to make time for yourself to settle in and have a restful night. Don’t run yourself down to the last moment until you fall asleep. Use this time to re-build yourself. It does wonders for me.
5 Ways to Have a Better Night
1. Prepare for tomorrow.
If you don’t prepare for the next day, it will be chaos. I also find that my mind will continue to spin unless I have settled everything that needs to be done in the morning. Pick out your outfit (and try it on if you have to). Get your lunch ready. Prep your cold oats if you want. Pack up your bags. Be kind to yourself. I am not a morning person, so I know that if I have a ton of things to do, I will be STRESSED. I make it a point to avoid that at all costs. So, as Scar would say, Be Prepared! Once you are done, let tomorrow go. Think about the here and now. You won’t sleep if you are stressing about the next day’s events.
2. Count your blessings and review your goals.
It is so easy to get wrapped up in the day-to-day life and really forget what your big picture is. I try to make it a point to mentally go over my big picture goals are, and what I am truly grateful for. This helps me stay a little bit sane, and helps me keep on track with where I want to be. This also helps calm my mind at night, when I do the most overthinking.
3. Pamper yourself. (Treat yo self)
Do this however you like. I like luxurious bubble baths, they’re my guilty pleasure. I love laying in steaming hot water while I read or mediate. Brush your teeth, paint your nails, rub on some coconut oil, love your body. ALSO, wash your face! Give yourself the royal treatment. You don’t want to skip this process for beauty and emotional reasons. Let your skin breathe overnight by making sure that all of your makeup is off, it will make you feel fresh and clean. (Also, duh, if you leave your makeup on you get wrinkles and pimples, and no one wants those.)
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Burn some candles, start up your diffuser, make some hot tea. Give yourself time to unwind. It is much easier to fall asleep when you put yourself in that mindset. You are getting ready to rest for 7 or 8 hours (hopefully), let your body get prepared to do just that. Get all snuggled up, read a little bit of your favorite book, watch your favorite show. Relax. I find that I often miss this step because I run out of time, but it truly makes a world of difference.
Once you have set your alarm (and checked it three times if you’re a freak like me), and have settled everything for tomorrow, put it all down. Be with yourself for ten minutes. Let your body and your mind connect, and just check in with yourself. Sometimes this is the best way to get myself to fall asleep!
Okay, so life has been amazing lately. However, that doesn’t change the fact that my chakras are all out of whack. I am happy, but I know that I can be a better version of myself, and I will always strive for that.
So for the new year, I am making resolutions that will directly impact each one of my chakras.
Root: Take walk through nature three times a week. Whether that is through the neighborhood, or through a trail. This will not only help me root myself in nature, but will also improve my physical health. I also plan on eating healthier to help my physical body.
Sacral Plexus: The sacral plexus chakra’s element is water. So, to stimulate that, I hope to take a meditative bath or take a swim twice a week. The meditation will be focusing on letting go of guilt, and letting my emotions flow through the water and through my body.
Solar Plexus: This chakra has so much to so with self- worth, loving yourself., will power, and self-esteem. So, my plan is to actually work on my physical body, and work out three times a week. This should go hand in hand with taking my walks through nature.
Heart: Say I love you more. Say it, mean it, absorb it. Not only to Jason, but to my family and friends. Life can be so short, and we need to truly take in every moment as a a gift.
Throat: This chakra is all about expressing yourself and communication. My resolution is to create something every month. I am creative in many different ways, so I need to put that to use. Another resolution is going to be to participate in our community choir every week, therefore letting myself be expressed through music.
Third Eye and Crown: MEDITATE! This can be so easily lost in my every day. It’s so easy to get caught up being busy. I can afford ten minutes a day. Uninterrupted. Third Eye chakra is all about seeing the bigger picture, clairvoyance, and seeing clearly. Meditation can help clear your mind so you can see. The crown chakra is about connecting to the divine. During meditation, you an invite the divine into your life, so this is the perfect way to stimulate it.
I have a few more resolutions I want to accomplish too, this is just the beginning. I might elaborate on this post a little bit later to really give a full run down of my goals for 2017.
It’s going to be a great year.
All for now,
You don’t have to compare your life to others. You are on your own journey in this life. You don’t have to be thinking about marriage, or kids, or that big promotion. Do you. Do your life at your own pace.
It is TOTALLY okay to cry. In fact, its good for you. It isn’t natural to bottle up your emotions. There should be no guilt involved with crying, or expressing yourself.
3. Not cleaning.
The laundry will get done eventually, and the kitchen will get cleaned. Some days, you just need to relax, and save it for another day. Do it for your own mental health.
4. Changing to benefit your life.
This one has been a tough one for me recently. I have felt some guilt for leaving behind a team that counted and depended on me. However, this new job has presented some great opportunities for my life, and will benefit me in the end. I have to remember to let go of the guilt.
5. Eating dessert. And eating it first.
Of course, it is good to watch what you eat. But let’s be honest. You have to enjoy life, and sometimes, you want dessert first. And thats okay.
6. Saying no.
Feeling guilty for not wanting to hang out is not going to do you any good. If you don’t want to do something, say no. Sometimes you just need time to re-charge yourself, and thats okay. Just because you don’t want to hang out, doesn’t mean you are a bad person or friend. It is totally fine to stay in and binge watch your favorite Netflix show.
7. Saying yes.
Feel like you’re too busy to hang out, but REALLY want to? GO! You will make time for your busy life. It can be refreshing to take a break and spend time with friends. With that being said, I wouldn’t recommend having a wild night and going into work the next day, but everything in moderation. You have to make time for play too. All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.
8. Taking a selfie.
Just because you post a picture of yourself doesn’t mean your a narcissist. You are allowed to love who you are, and love being in your own skin. In fact, I highly encourage it. When you love yourself, you attract love, and you will spread love.
9. Protecting yourself.
Let go of what no longer serves you. If something or someone is no longer benefitting you, and is now draining you, let it go. Its okay to take care of yourself, and to be a little selfish.
10. Taking a personal day.
If you need a day to yourself, you need a day to yourself. Your team will manage without you. Let go of that guilt. Sometimes if you just keep “pushing through,” you will push to your breaking point. We don’t want that, so how about that personal day?
Today I made the decision that it was time to move on to balancing my solar plexus chakra. I was so worried about beginning my journey with the sacral plexus because previously, I have struggled in that area of my life. But recently, I have been feeling like the actually part I should focus on lies within the solar plexus. So, what a perfect time to start.
These words will be my mantra for the next week. I have had issues with anxiety in the past, especially throughout college. I had/have issues with panic attacks, and morning anxiety. But through meditation, yoga, and balance, I have stopped it from overtaking my life. My life recently had a huge shift when I started working full time. Since then, I have seen my anxiety bubbling up again, and I have felt like I don’t have the strength to contain it. In the mornings, it makes me sick to my stomach, which is never fun. I had a moment the other day, and I just couldn’t contain it anymore, and broke down in tears. Jason recommended that I use meditation and balance to settle it down again. Instead of letting this spiral out of control, I am going to dive back in, and really focus my energies on being confident and having faith that everything will work out with way it is supposed to. I think it is really rooted in confidence, and life balance. I think shifting my focus onto myself, and on my solar plexus will have a significant impact on my life in its current state.
“The Solar Plexus Chakra is located just above the naval and below the rib cage. It is our energy center and it radiates vital life energy (prana) through-out our entire body. It is where our Will Power comes from; our ability to achieve, self-esteem, raw emotions, and self-discipline are all governed by the Manipura. It is where we can have a mental understanding of our emotional self.” -Source
“The third chakra is the center of your self-esteem. Every time you judge or criticize yourself, you deplete this chakra and weaken your willpower. Self love, self acceptance, and acknowledgement of your own worth are the building blocks of the third chakra. A woman with an open and balanced Manipura Chakra values herself and her work, is confident in her ability to do something well, loves and accepts herself, is willing to express herself in a powerful way, knows that she has the freedom to choose to be herself and direct her own life.” -Source
“When this Chakra is in balance you will be in complete control over your emotions and thoughts. Your ego mind, or small mind will have no unwanted influence over your actions.You will know without a doubt, and accept your place in the Universe, have self-love and, in turn, have a great appreciation for all the people in your life and the uniqueness that they bring to world. When in tune, your Solar-plexus will radiate warmth and joy through-out your entire being, and to others who come into contact with you.
Over-active Solar-plexus Chakra
If your chakra is over-active you may be judgemental or critical – and you will easily find fault in others. You may be demanding and have extreme emotional problems, being very rigid or stubborn (it’s either your way or no way). Often anger, or aggressiveness result from an over-active chakra. You may always be planning to do things, but never doing, and your work or interests become a priority over things you have to do (a workaholic). You may also be a perfectionist and can’t settle on something that is already good enough, it always has to be better.
Under-active Solar-plexus Chakra
If this chakra is under active it can cause severe emotional problems. You may have a lot of doubt and mistrust towards the people in your life, and worry too much about what other people might think about you. You may also run on “auto pilot” avoiding your feelings of depression or anxiety; you may feel afraid or alone when you start to look at what you have been avoiding. You also may feel that you are not good enough and be seeking a constant approval of others, this can lead to a need, or dependency on the people in your life.
Physical Symptoms of a Solar-plexus imbalance: Poor digestion, weight problems, ulcers, diabetes, hypoglycemia, hyperglycemia, arthritis, pacreas, liver or kidney problems, anorexia, bulimia, hepatitis, intestinal tumors, colon disease.
Its funny, because when I first got into chakra healing, I realized that I had an over-active solar plexus chakra, and I had to work on bringing it back in. Now, I have a slightly under-active solar plexus chakra, and I have to work on letting it spin again.
As always, I will include blog posts about the different ways I will go about stimulating this chakra. But today, I will be wearing a bright yellow top to help my mind start thinking YELLOW!
“I passionately live my purpose and move forward with unwavering courage.”
Oh hey there,
It’s funny how life can get at you. It’s been a while since I’ve posted anything. However, I have been working on my Sacral Plexus Chakra. Lately, it is harder to stay focused on this journey to balance between my two jobs, and life itself. Regardless, I have been trying to stay on track. The element related to the second chakra is water, so you know I have been taking tons of baths. 😉
To refresh, “The second chakra is the foundation of the emotional body, it influences our ability to feel emotions, sensations and atmospheres, and controls our ability to let go of our emotions. The second chakra influences our sexuality and sensuality, physical force, sexual and ardent love, open-mindedness, our ability to yield and cooperating amicably with other people. This chakra physically influences the lower abdomen, spleen, liver, bladder, kidneys, sexual organs, reproduction and fertility. When the sacral plexus chakra is performing correctly, the person will feel healthy, open, friendly, imaginative and creative which helps us to focus on our objectives. The person will have concerns for others as it promotes tolerance and patience which in turn helps us to relate with others in a positive manner. When this chakra is balanced it encourages intuition, a good frame of mind, energy and success. It helps you to learn from our experiences whether they be successes or failures providing us with the focus we need for our ambitions. If this chakra is not working properly it cause negative influences in the physical, this is seen in the form of emotional problems or sexual guilt, and excesses in food, sex and drugs. If this chakra is not working properly it creates negative influences in the physical this is seen in the form of bladder infections, impotence or frigidity and problems with the reproductive organs and fertility. If this chakra has too much energy moving through it, we may become self-centred and too ambitious, jealous, distrusting and cold. If too little energy is flowing then we may become shy, hyper-sensitive, untrusting, confused, uncertain, with a growing feeling of aimlessness to our life.” (Source)
I wanted to share some yoga poses that might help the journey to opening up the Sacral Plexus. Disclaimer: I am not a yoga instructor, nor am I perfect at yoga. I do practice regularly, and just want to share some poses that I have used to try to get my Sacral Plexus Chakra spinning.
I usually start out every session I do with this pose. It eases me into my practice, and really opens up the hips.
This pose an establish a great connection with the earth, and really opens up your hips. This can also be followed by Warrior I and Reverse Warior. “As you stand here in the Warrior stance, soften the organ of your skin inward and let that remind you of your innate receptive self. Neither aggressive nor passive, you are a creative, strong, and beautiful being. Spend 5 breaths here and imagine those breaths as water, running rivers of light through your entire physical, emotional, and mental self.” (Source)
In this photo I am looking up, but eventually you can fall forward, coming very close to the earth. “As you begin to soften down, consciously release your belly. Let go of any tension in the abdomen—let it all hang out. As you release deeply, let your eyes and jaw relax completely. ” (Source)
Cow Face Pose:
This one really gives me a full body stretch. It makes me feel grounded, and gives a great stretch in the hips, legs, arms and lower back.
I call this one, “Looks Like I’m Giving Birth Pose,” but it feels like heaven on the hips.
Low Side Lunge:
You can also use any variation of a lunge for this one. While in this pose, really try to let go of the tension in your abdomen and pelvic bones.
Have any poses that work for you? I would love to hear from you!
All for now,
So, we begin our journey into the sacral plexus chakra. The sacral plexus is located right about the root chakra, just below the belly button. The color of the sacral plexus is orange. (If any of you know me well, you know that orange is my LEAST favorite color to put it nicely.) The sacral plexus governs over but also reproductive activities, emotions and creativity.
“The sacral plexus chakra is where the soul embraces the body. It is the chakra that represents the innocent self of a person before he/she is influenced by society. This chakra is connected to your intuition because it is governed by faith and trust. Artists, musicians and healers usually have strong sacral plexus chakras because this chakra is strongly connected to creativity.
People with weak or blocked sacral plexus chakras may appear lifeless because of their lack of emotions. They may lack sexual desire and may have a hard time getting pregnant. Physical symptoms such as, kidney problem, sexual dysfunction, constipation, and lower back pain may be the results of having a weak or blocked sacral plexus chakra.” (source)
“The way we express our emotions and how we make our decisions are affected by this chakra. It turns universal energy into manifesting, or attracting, energy. It acts as a magnet, attracting all that we think and feel, and mirrors those same thoughts and emotions into this reality through the everyday decisions that we make.
The Svadhisthana is represented by the color orange and it defines how we connect ourselves with others. This chakra is known to be a place of receiving and giving, whether it be tangible or intangible. The act of exchanging gifts, or even the exchange of emotions and feelings for one another begins here. It also holds our connection to our desires and sexuality, and it helps bring a balance to all the polarities that exist within our lives. Inspirations for creative ideas, businesses, and artistic endeavors may enter our being through our Crown Chakra, but it is in the Svadhisthana and Muladhara where they are stored. The Sacral Plexus Chakra is what allows us to give birth to these ideas, manifesting them into our reality. It is also the energy center that directly deals with childbirth, manifesting life into existence.” (source)
“Physical : Bladder, Cystitis, Endometriosis, Fertility issues, Miscarriages, Fibroids, Irritable Bowel Syndrome, Kidney complaints, Menstrual Problems, Muscle Cramps/ Spasms, Ovarian Cysts, Pre-menstrual Syndrome, Prostates Disease, Testicular Disease, Uterine Fibroids, Candida, Impotency, Bedwetting, Frigidity, Creative Blocks.
Emotional : Guilt, Embarrassment, Shame, Distrust, Impatience, Desire to hide, Nervousness, Holding on, Uptight, Frustration, Inadequacy, Anger, Tendency to push for things, Feeling victimized, Expecting the worst, Numbness, Neediness, Detaching from oneself and going out of body, Feeling shut down, Depression, Denying your own needs, Not supporting yourself, Blaming others, Anger at a mate, Punishing oneself, Denial of self, Rejecting femininity or masculinity, Bitter words left unspoken, Sexual pressure, Tension, Rigid social beliefs, Spite against a previous mate, Fear of mother, Emotional overflow, Years of controlling emotions, Fear of father, Denial of pleasure, A belief that sex or intimacy/touch is bad.” (source)
This chakra has always been a challenge for me, I think my troubles with this chakra started as a child, and still stick with me today. I might spend a little more time on this chakra simply for this reason.
I’m going to get really honest and real here, because balancing your chakras is not always sunshines and daisies… in the past, my sacral plexus was completely shut down, no parts of this chakra were flowing with energy. Before I was with Jason, I was stuck in a relationship that did not serve me, and that deeply affected my sacral plexus. I was not comfortable with my self image, my sexuality, or inner security because I was chained down by a relationship that did everything to break down those positive thoughts. “If your Svadhisthana is under-active, you can become a very disconnected and cold person towards those that you love. You will also be out of touch with your emotions, and even your sexuality. Life will become very bland and boring, and you will feel no real sense of joy or happiness. In your relationships, you may find yourself being used and abused, and perhaps even manipulated and controlled. One may even be so insecure to the point where he or she begins to manipulate their partner to establish control. It is also common for those with under-active Svadhisthanas to be extremely overindulgent, whether it be with food, sweets, alcohol, drugs.” (source). When I started with chakra healing, I realized how damaging this connection was, and it took a while because I was in denial, but I finally said no more. This did a lot for my healing process. Sometimes balancing your chakras can be more than meditating, yoga, and crystal healing. Sometimes it is making big life changes that will serve you better in the end. After going through all of that, my motto became, “Only do things that serve YOU.” By sticking with this, I have become a happier, more pleasant person. I still had more healing to go even after that, because I had to restore myself, and rebuild that positive energy. I cut many other things out of my life that related to this issue too, and it has made a world of difference.
Though that connection is long in my past, I still find moments when I realize that my sacral plexus is a little off balance. Jason and I are in an extremely happy relationship, and I feel as though our relationship has actually helped my sacral plexus blossom. I feel secure, happy, and beautiful with his love surrounding me. That is how a relationship should feel.
I look forward to putting more emphasis on this part of my body. I will keep posting things to the site about different ways to heal, and let you know about different things that are working for me.
More to come,
Hey! It’s February!
I’ve been working on my root chakra for a little while now. Shifting my focus back onto improving myself has made such a difference for me. Although balancing your energies is a constant battle, I feel better in tact than I was before.
In my first post about the root chakra I said, “If your root chakra is in balance or open properly, you will feel secure in your world and daily tasks will seem effortless. You will not have any doubts about your place in the world and things will work for you, whether it be with relationships, money or with a career.” When I first started working on my root chakra again, it was probably the perfect timing. I had just graduated a month prior, and wasn’t really sure where my career with Anthropologie was headed. I really had to let go and trust that things would work out for me. By having that focus every day, I felt like I was able to handle the stress of not knowing about my career for a month. Finally, the new fiscal year rolled in for the company, and I found out that I was promoted to a supervisor position. All of the patience and hard work I had put in paid off. I just have to keep the mentality that things will continue to work out for me when they are supposed to, and I will grow even further with my career.
“I am open to possibilities.
I am grateful for all the challenges that helped me to grow and transform.
I trust in the goodness of life.”
While working on this chakra, I really tried to incorporate a healthier lifestyle. While I didn’t ALWAYS eat super healthy, (I’m working on it, okay?!) I did start doing yoga again. This made me feel like I was actually paying attention to my body, and was giving it what it needed. The root chakra puts a lot of focus on the physical. It challenges you to fuel your body with nutritional foods, lots of water, and exercise. By feeding your body with what the earth naturally offers up to you, you are more connected to the earth.
“I am grounded, stable, and standing on my own two feet.
I nurture my body with healthy food, clean water, exercise, relaxation, and connection with nature.”
I am going to continue to work on eating clean, and eating foods that make my body feel good. I want to continue my yoga practice and really keep going with the balance of this new life I’ve started.
Overall, I am feeling great! I think I am about ready to shift my attention to the next chakra.
I wanted to link a few videos that have been really wonderful for stimulating my root chakra and really making me feel grounded. Doing yoga is something that I really wanted to make a regular practice in the new year, and so far, so good!
I like the idea of doing yoga in my own home because I can go at the pace I want, really stretch deep where it feels right, and really respond to my own body.
So, here they are!