How Successful Women Keep Their Work-Life Balance:

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Finding the perfect balance between being on-spot with work but also enjoying your personal time is tough. How do you avoid the burn out?

Because I am young, I feel that I am career driven, more than any other area of my life. I have so much to learn and so far to go. I am constantly taking classes to improve myself, and I put my all into work. On the other hand I recently got engaged, and enjoy spending time with not only Jason, but my family and friends too. So how do you find balance?

For me, finding this balance wasn’t the easiest. A year ago I decided had to change my focus and my entire career in order to achieve any balance at all. Now that I have some balance, I have to keep working at it or it will slip away. My work-life balance will obviously change over time, according to what is happening in my life. I will have to adjust my sails when I get married, have kids, advance in my career.. this will all change the way I structure my life.

It is a tricky balance, and it will be ever-changing, so I wanted to get some input from some of the most successful ladies that surround my life. How do you do it?


1. Trust and Rely Others: 

My good friend Sharon, who has worked her way up to be extremely successful in the hospitality world, said that in order to have a home life, she had to put trust in her team. Sharon said, “Being able to “disconnect” when I leave the office, for me, means mitigating those concerns that keep successful people up at night. I put the majority of my energy into putting kind, strategic, energetic people around me. While I have many goals and “stakeholders”, my associates come first. I ensure their work environment is fun and inspiring so they can focus on the operation. I always like to say that no one cares about what you know until they know how much you care. My team is my family; they inspire and uplift me and I do my very best to do the same. I recognize their accomplishments and offer resources when they are struggling. This enables me to walk away each day and know that they will put forth the same effort I do. You cannot do it alone and no great leader should try. I measure my success based on the success, happiness, and growth of my team.” 

When asking my best friend’s mother, Sue, how she stays successful at work and also balances her home life, she said, “It is about making mistakes and learning from them…”I had to learn to balance family and career.  Not an easy task I was lucky in many ways as I had a partner who was willing and able to pick up any pieces I couldn’t. Parenting was a balancing act that took a lot of organization but I made sure there was no disappointments in my beautiful daughter’s world

I loved this bit of advice, and I think it ties in well with how Sharon responded.  You have to put your trust in others. You can’t do everything yourself. You have to trust your team, whether it be at work or at home. They can handle it when you aren’t able to be there. They can cover any stones left unturned, and can help you create the type of life you want to live (if you let them!)

2. Draw the Line:

Knowing when to say no is difficult, especially when you are just beginning your career. I struggled with this in my first job, always taking on crazy tasks that led me to work well into overtime. My friend Nicole, who now works at one of the best PR/Ad/Marketing/Design agencies in the St. Pete and Tampa Bay area, had the right idea when she said to know when to draw the line. She said, “My first job out of college threw boundaries out the window. I would get texts from my boss at 11:00 pm or even 6:00 am demanding to know what the status of project XYZ was. After only two months I was sick with anxiety and depression. I walked away two months later (having only been there a total of four months) knowing that wasn’t the life I wanted for myself. I very strongly believe that once it starts affecting your health, you have to leave. End of story. 

Now, Im lucky enough to have a job with an incredible team that has only ever supported me and helped me to grow in my position. I would never have ended up at Hype Group if I hadn’t stood up for myself and left my first job. Drawing that line in the sand can be terrifying, but a wise person once told me that sometimes you have to go through the fire to be truly prepared for what lies ahead. I can handle (almost) anything my job throws at me now. So speak up, ladies. Don’t shy away from hard work, but draw that line when you know it’s being pushed too far.”

3. Plan for all aspects of your life.

When I had my retail job, I felt like all I would do is work and sleep and eat and repeat. I had a crazy retail schedule and I felt like I could never see my friends. Then, my friend Meredith suggested that I actually schedule out times to see friends. With my work schedule, I would usually have time in the mornings, and so why waste that time?  I began scheduling time to grab coffee with friends instead of sleeping the morning away.  What a difference!  Meredith, who is an Admissions Counselor for a private college in Florida, said, “A big part of finding balance is scheduling fun time, in the same way I block out time for a meeting or work event. If I have friend dates and family time to look forward to, I have added incentive to get through my errands and chores (and my work day)!” 

4. Know yourself and your limits.

When asking my best friend’s mother, Sue, how she stays successful at work and also balances her home life, she said, “Knowing my limitations and how to work with them.” I loved this advice because usually you hear people say, “The sky is the limit!” But realistically, everyone has their limits, its is how you handle them that makes the difference.

5. Know that it’s okay to make mistakes. 

Sue also said her success was defined by “Making mistakes and learning from them.” Sue said, “In my early twenties I was successful because I had to be.  I was independent, living by myself, working two jobs and trying to make my way in this world.  I went through a few relationships that were not good choices for me until I found the right guy.  Success in those days was making mistakes, picking myself up and keep moving forward until I got it right.  It was probably the hardest time in my life.  Living from paycheck to paycheck relying on only myself and my abilities.  However it gave me a great foundation for the years to come.”

6. Work hard for the things that matter.

 I think it is really important to identify what the most important parts of your life are. Then, you can really structure your work, and free time around that. Sue said, “Marriage, a child and a career is the biggest balancing act women are faced with.  Each one is a full time job within itself.  I put so much time and energy into parenting and my career I did not have much energy left for my marriage.  There are times you don’t realize that you are unsuccessful in something until it is too late.  This was almost the case here.  I found myself faced with an area that was going to require time and energy.  Time and energy I didn’t have.  But I dug deep and found it.  It was hard work.  I went from  a balancing act to a juggling act.  How did I do it?  I’m not sure, but I did.  My marriage survived and now 30+ years later I would have to call it a success.”

It is so important to give time to the things that matter in your life. Working hard at your career seems obvious, but don’t forget to work hard on your relationships too. In the end your relationships with others are so much more important.

7. Leave work at work and home at home

When asking my own mother about how she keeps a successful work-life balance, she simply said, “Leave work at work and home at home.” Which I thought was interesting, because that getting increasingly harder with modern technology. When I wake up in the morning, I check my emails, and I check my social media campaigns to make sure nothing went haywire while I was asleep. Its a habit, and I would like to think of it as a good one.

I really thought on it, and I think that the term “Leave work at work and home at home,” doesn’t have to be so literal. I am perfectly fine with making sure everything in my work world is running smoothly when I am “off the clock,” but I have to draw the line somewhere.  When I am out with friends, or spending time with Jason, or my family, I shouldn’t be checking my work emails, or checking up on the latest advertising campaign. We have to switch off sometimes, we have to absorb our “out of work” world to the fullest potential. You should put just as much effort into enjoying your relationships and home life, as you do enjoying your work.

I think that is how you find balance?

I don’t know, I am still working on it 😉

All for now,

xoxoxo

Meg

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