When I talk about meditating, I usually get one of two reactions. The first being a weird look, and an eye roll, or the second reaction of curiosity and confusion.
Listen folks, meditating is not always sitting in a seated position with your fingers making a circle at your knees. It is not always magical and spiritual, and full of insight. It is not always chanting OM loudly with crystal bowl music behind you. It is actually not as mysterious as it sounds.
Meditation is different for everyone. Sometimes it takes time to figure out what works for you, and that is ever-evolving. Something that worked for me two months ago might not be applicable to me today. Recently, the only time I have been finding to meditate is right before bed. (Yes, sometimes I catch myself falling asleep, whoops!) So, I typically lay down with palms up with a guided meditation in the background. See, Jason on the other hand, he gets freaked out by guided meditation (don’t ask me why) so he does better in silence or with gentle music in the background.
You have to find what works for you. If I have time, I love to do chakra balancing meditations with a guide. (PS- there are great guided meditations on the Podcasts app!) But realistically, I don’t have time to do a full-blown guided meditation every day, or every week even. I do, however, try to make it a point to meditate every day. Think you don’t have time for that? That is EXACTLY why you need it. Ease yourself into it… You can “meditate” while you shower, while you drink your morning coffee, before you fall asleep. Ideally you would be sitting still, and resting your body. I realize that sometimes life doesn’t hand you the time to zone out for an extended period 0f time, but you truly owe yourself 10 minutes a day. Work with what you have.
So wait, how do you do it?
Again, there are multiple kinds of meditation, but this is how I like to do it:
– Lay or sit in a comfortable position
– Make sure your phone is on silent, but play some tranquil music in the background.
– Gently scan your body to see how you are feeling
– Focus on your breath. Feel your lungs fill up with air, and then empty again. Listen to the rhythm of your body.
– Keep in mind that meditation is not the absence of thought, but simply learning to let your thoughts come and go with ease. You are bound to think of something while you sit there in silence, but meditation is learning to let go.
– When you find yourself too deep in thought, focus on your breath. This will help your mind relax a little.
– Another way to stay relaxed and keep your mind off things is by “shutting down” each part of your body. Start with your toes, feet, ankles, legs, and move your way up to total relaxation. (Although I will warn you, this usually puts me right to sleep!)
So meditating isn’t this big weird mystery. It is just being still and quiet to let your body, mind, and spirit connect.
Meditating is checking in with every aspect of your being to make sure you are on the right track, to ask yourself if you are acting like the person you want to be.